With love in the air I was inspired to write this for the women (or men) out there who are waiting for their future spouse.
Virginity is most precious gift a woman (or man) can give their spouse when they get married. It is saying, I waited for YOU. I fought every temptation, I ran out on every opportunity that came my way and by the Grace of God, I was able to save my best gift for you.
This is powerful because I know of many young women and men who have intentionally saved themselves for marriage in spite of the pressures of today’s culture.
But I want to talk to the ones who did not have that experience. I am talking to the ones who didn’t wait because they thought the one they were dating, was “the one” they were going to marry, and they fell. I am talking to the ones who were date raped, but you couldn’t tell anyone because no one would believe you. I am talking to the ones who were once married to an abusive spouse and they told you, no one would ever want you because you are used goods and I am talking to ones who have been gossiped about because of all the partners you’ve been with and can’t seem to live down the shame.
You see I myself wanted to give my best gift to my husband. But 31 years ago, I was told by “friends” that sex was good, and it will make you feel like you’ve never felt before. Sex was going to make you feel loved, and since I didn’t know what love was, I believed the LIE. Many of us have been wounded by someone in our past. The person who inflicted the pain caused us to search for LOVE because we got duped. Since love wasn’t found, there was a substitute; deception.
Deception comes in and promises the moon and the stars, but it never fulfills what God intended for you. Deception leads us into thinking that if we just try it once, it’ll be OK, or it spots out the wounded heart and takes advantage of their brokenness, which pulls them down and covers them with shame and regret, so they feel unworthy of themselves. This cycle repeats itself over and over and over.
So, what do you do when you’ve been with multiple partners? What happens if you were molested, date raped, lied to, used and manipulated into sex? Well since you can’t go back in time to change the course of events, there is one beautiful gift that God gives us.
It’s the gift of the second chance. When we surrender our hurts, wounds, traumatic experiences and shame, God gives us something so special, so beautiful called the gift of purity of heart.
Now some might say, it’s impossible to be a virgin again, and in the natural, you are correct. But what does God say about this?
In John 3:4-5 Nicodemus (a Pharisee) asked Jesus, “How can anyone,” said Nicodemus, “be born who has already been born and grown up? You can’t re-enter your mother’s womb and be born again. What are you saying with this ‘born-from-above’ talk?”
5-6 Jesus said, “You’re not listening. Let me say it again. Unless a person submits to this original creation—the ‘wind-hovering-over-the-water’ creation, the invisible moving the visible, a baptism into a new life—it’s not possible to enter God’s kingdom.
I love that Jesus was very blunt. Like He literally told Nicodemus, a religious leader of those times, “You are not listening, so let me repeat myself.” Jesus didn’t do this to condemn him, He said this because He was trying to get past the Religious exterior and speak to his HEART.
In the natural, we can’t be a virgin again because we can’t go back but Jesus explained, a baptism into a NEW LIFE.
So, wait… if we have a “new life”, that means the old is gone, right? Well according to scripture, it is. When we come to the loving arms of the Father, He tells us, “Not even I can remember it.. Isaiah 43:25 I, yes, I alone am he who blots away your sins for my own sake and will never think of them again.
So if Gods word is TRUTH, (and it is) then we CAN have the heart of Virgin again. You see with God, it's always about the HEART. It is never the outward appearances because this can deceive. The outward can seem all put together, but God wants to repair the Heart where all the issues of LIFE flow. Then, and only then, is purity birthed and all shame is removed.
So today if you are struggling with feeling like no one will want you because you are not a virgin, or even if you made many bad decisions in your past, or if you had no control over the circumstances that came at you, God wants us to be free to love ourselves again with the love that only the Great Physician can fix.
You are free to be loved by a God who is fashioning our hearts daily, so you can have a future and a hope.
You are now free to see your true beauty from the Heart of a Virgin.
~Broken Beautiful Ministries
Chrissie Moore is a mother and grandmother from Keller Texas. She is a survivor of mental, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse. She has a passion to help other women who are seeking freedom.