I love the rain. The sound of the drops hitting the window and the fresh smell after. I could sit and stare at it for hours. However, after these last several rain storms, I noticed a couple of sunken holes in my yard. So, I did what anyone would do and ventured out to Home Depot to buy some dirt to fill them in.
While I was there, a thought came to my head. “What if I use cement to fill up the holes? “
I know, I know, you shouldn’t fill in holes in your yard with cement but go with me here a minute.
If I were to fill the holes with cement, then the hole would be covered permanently, and water would not be able to get in that hole again. However, just like water can’t get in the hole, the grass wouldn’t be able to grow either. Cement is a good filler, but it wasn’t made to fill holes in my yard.
The same is with our hearts!
So many of us have been hurt and wounded by people, places and things. So instead of filling in the holes with the right “filler” we use other types of fillers that weren’t made for that type of hurt.
Let me explain.
During my marriage of 24 years, I walked through different “types” of abuse. With each level of abuse, I could have filled it with different things after my late husband died. I was sexually abused, so I could have filled that hurt by sleeping around with different partners, so I could still feel loved. I was emotionally and mentally abused; and I could have filled my mind with books about finding love and romance. (Now just for the record, reading romance novels are not bad). But trying to fill the emotional hurt with them is. It gives women a “false sense of hope” that they missed out on their only opportunity to find love because they married the wrong man, but in reality there’s no “perfect” man or woman.
So, what I’m getting at is, different abuses, or hurts need fillers. But filling them with a temporary solution, does not fix the hole in your heart. It only covers it up until it needs refilling again.
The only filler of hurt is Jesus. Now I know this is so cliché because I had the same rolling eyes when someone told me that all I needed was to run to the loving arms of the Savior. But honestly, it’s true! There’s no man, woman, drugs, sex, alcohol or even spotlight that’s going to fill up any pain unless it’s Jesus.
Today, if you are needing to fill up those holes of hurt in your life, I’m going to tell you Jesus is REAL. Now the process isn’t going to be easy. You will have to face your hurt head on. You will have to stop filling your heart with mess that you think is working and finally, you’re going to have to admit that you do not have it all together, even if you are a super Christian.
You must remember that just because you have a hole in your heart, doesn’t mean you can’t be “whole”.
Isaiah 61:1-3 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, To proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion — to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor
Chrissie Moore is a mother and grandmother from Keller Texas. She is a survivor of mental, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse. She has a passion to help other women who are seeking freedom.