I never watch the Bachelor. However last night as I was meal prepping, I was literally glued to the TV as this whole circle of chaos unraveled in front of the whole world.
Becca, Lauren, Arie.
Although I have no idea about any of the backstory, what pulled me in-was seeing a man ending one relationship because he felt he had chosen the wrong woman while going back to the first woman he had previously ditched.
Now we all know TV and everything that goes along with that; ratings, drama etc. But what the Lord brought to my attention was the overwhelming emotions of rejection that Becca was walking through.
“How could this happen?” What had gone wrong?” “Wasn’t I good enough?” “What is wrong with me?” “What will I do now?” I could see it in her eyes; the hurt, the rejection, and all the questions that came along with that. All the WHATS. I wanted to jump right through that TV and console this poor woman……because I used to be her.
Well now that I’ve got your attention, let me explain where I’m going with this.
Everyone has their “why”. Not like why did this happen to me. But your WHY!
Your why is what keeps your going, your why is what keeps you grounded and your why is the reason you don’t give up hope even when nothing around you makes any sense at all.
So, this article goes out to my beautiful single friends, both women and men because I have an equal amount of you in my life.
As bad as you (we) want our future spouses to come into our lives, don’t ever settle for being someone’s second choice. You are worth so much and you are worth so much MORE to God.
Ephesians 1:4 says He chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. Psalm 17:8 says We are the Apple of His eye and John 15:16 says, you did not choose me, but I chose you!
I could go on and on, but I think you get my drift.
Your self-worth is a beautiful gift. But you must know who you are IN HIM to realize He is your “WHY”. As people come and go into our lives, I have truly been so grateful for everything I have learned from them. Both the good and the bad. Heck I’ve even realized things in myself along the way!
I can now see my beauty for what it really is; beauty isn’t just outward, but inward, and I’ve seen so much of it lately in so many people.
And lastly, I’ve come to see that to everything THERE IS a season, a time for every purpose under heaven (Ecc 3:1)
My friends, you haven’t been forgotten, you’re not someone’s second choice, and you’re not alone. You are strategically being positioned for greatness! So strike your pose and keep smiling!
If you just got out of a relationship and have no idea WHAT happened, remember that God is still protecting you. So instead of asking WHAT did you do wrong, maybe you should see WHY God got you out of it!
The next time rejection tries to come, (because it will) remember that He IS overwhelming, never-ending- recklessly pursing you because-
YOU ARE AND ALWAYS WILL BE HIS FIRST CHOICE.
Chrissie Moore is a mother and grandmother from Keller Texas. She is a survivor of mental, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse. She has a passion to help other women who are seeking freedom.